Have you ever felt, as a passion driven woman, that everything is on your shoulders, you can’t delegate and you are trying to move mountains to reach a goal?
If the answer is yes, please stick to me for the next 10 minutes, when I will explore with you the importance of a community of women. Because:
#1 you are not alone
#2 we are not supposed to walk on this earth alone
#3 we can find immense resources in ourselves and our kula, community of like-minded women
Get comfy, because we will tap in something ancestral in our society and way of living.
Something that we forgot, but it belongs to our experience as human beings.
When did it start?
The industrial revolution brought a big shift in the way we live, work and think. It brought incredible new jobs opportunities and gave financial stability and prosperity to families that didn’t know how to put food on the table.
However, as in everything, there was a very high price to pay: families had to move from a village and community –like a way of living to buildings with small units in the cities close enough to factories.
And of course, the working and living conditions were unbearable, but this is not the place to talk about it.
The cultural and social shift was immense, and we are still living the reverberations of that historical moment.
Sense of belonging in a very lonely society
As I said before, my great-great grandparents could not even imagine the prosperity we could live right now, but for sure they would be shocked by the immense loneliness we experience in our contemporary society.
When I observe my life and the women around me, I can see that we face the major events of our life – career, arrival of a baby, marriage, grief – feeling very alone in this process. Living in our small apartments we miss the support, kind words and experience of older ones or a mind-like community.
Sadness, depression, emptiness or exhaustion can show up as companions while we try to nourish our job, being a present as co-worker, business owner, partner, daughter and mother.
Society asks us to have it all together, keep smiling and being fit with a great body.
There is still so much work to do in our society, so that we can as women, have equality, support as working mothers and we don’t have to decide either for a great career or being a mother.
We are going there, but what can we do in the meantime?
We can dust off something ancestral and essential for women: a community, a kula of women with the same purpose, where we can find support, being held and celebrated.
Belonging is an essential need as human beings, we can’t and we are not supposed to walk on this earth alone.
Community of Women – Kula
Now that I am writing this blog post, a memory of my grandmother showed up. She used to gather and cook with her sisters. I remember that they would talk about their life, struggles and joys. They would do it in a not-judgimental way and they were always present for each other.
That was my first experience with the power of a community of women. I underestimated and overlooked that power of the kula for a lot of years. I grew up thinking that I could do everything by myself and I couldn’t call a girlfriend to ask for support in moments of sadness or pick up something for me.
If you are wondering what a Kula is, there you go:
Kula is a Sanskrit word that can be translated as “community,” “clan” or “tribe.” This word is sometimes used by the yoga community to denote the sense of inclusion and belonging that can be cultivated through yogis coming together to practice yoga.
But why is a community of women so essential in our life and business?
For my personal journey everything shifted when I was living in Florence and through Yoga I created valuable and precious friendship: Daniela, Emily and Shirley were my harbour of strength, compassion and presence. I felt so empowered to have my sisters by my side, I felt invincible.
When we, as women, are connected to our inner creativity, strength and kindness, we can support each other, share tears without being judged and can collect our pieces back together giving each other strength, new perspective and support.
When we are not connected to our inner source, then we gossip, sabotage somebody else’s success and project our own insecurities and doubts. For too many year, due to a patriarchal society, we have been disconnected to our inner power: we often sabotage ourselves and others, we play small out of insecurities. Now it’s the time for a great shift, it’s the time to re-connect to our inner source of strength, compassion and kindness.
One of the core aspects of Corpo Giardino – Yoga Practices is the kula, because, when we are surrounded by women who share the same vision and purpose, we feel empowered, supported and heard.
So, if you are stumbling in this blog post, I want you to know that you are in a safe place, where you can be held, nourished and be completely yourself.
Kula in action
To fully experience the power of women seated together with the same purpose, I created a small meditation practice you can do with your sisters, in person or online – if they live on the opposite side of the world.
Step #1 Practice with me with the video from a FB live at the end of this blog post. If you feel aligned with how I share and guide, message your sisters and schedule an appointment with them during this week. Invite them for a meditation practice, thought to strengthen and nurture your sisterhood.
Step #2 Prepare your sacred space, the place where you normally practice Yoga or meditate, to welcome your sisters. If you are practicing online, do it anyway, and ask the other participants to do the same.
Step #3 Practice this meditation all together. At the end, if you want, you can share your experience, and journal.
The more you do it regularly, the more you will benefit from it.
I am all ears and committed to support you in finding balance, support and new fresh energy. That’s why it’s so important to me to hear your feedback, experiences and needs.
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