Today we talk about resistances, how they show up on the mat and 5 ways to flip resistances 180° on your Yoga mat.
You have no idea how many times I prepared and set up my yoga space the evening before, rolled my mat in my living room, prepared a moka and myself mentally to get up early in the morning.
I know that if I practice in the morning I can boost and begin my day with intention, high energy and a positive heart.
You have no idea how many times I wake up thinking: I don’t want to practice Yoga; I just want to sleep a bit more – at the end sleep is important as much as practicing Yoga, am I right?
Does it sound familiar?
If yes, welcome into Resistanceland!
Resistances can show up in so many different ways in our daily life and as Stefen Pressfield says in his masterpiece The War of Art: resistance is elicited by “any act that rejects immediate gratification in favour of long-term growth, health or integrity” or “any acts that derives from our higher nature, instead of our lower one”.
NB: if you don’t know who Stefen Pressfield is, please check out this interview with Marie Forleo – if you are an artist, creative person or an entrepreneur you are going to love it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZToRdS2HRc&t=54s
Isn’t it an interesting topic? I always found fascinating that we have a great talent to run away from what is healthy, loving but also requires hard work and commitment. Our mind, in order to keep us in our comfort zone and in what we know, creates and develops amazing and astonishing self-sabotaging plans.
What is your favorite self – sabotage actions? I’ll tell you some of my favorite strategies:
- Procrastinating anything related to my wellbeing (like practicing Yoga in the morning). Again, have a look at his Ted Talk about Procrastination – Tim Urban is hilarious and goes straight to the point: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU
- Eat junk food when I feel sad, tired and depressed (especially after a period of time when I felt good, in shape and great about myself).
- Keep scrolling Instagram or watching random documentaries on youtube when I know I have a very important deadline to respect around the corner.
- Setting up unrealistic goals so that I can say: “see I am not good enough”
- Not respecting high standards and integrity I care in my life, business and love life so that I can say: “see, this is not really for me”; even if what I really mean here is: “I am too afraid of growing up and getting out of my comfort zone and become responsible of my own life, business, love life”
Do you see yourself in any of this?
When I have a look of my favourite self-sabotaging strategies, I laugh because I find myself very creative, and I know I am not alone feeling in this way.
How does it show up on my Yoga Mat?
In one of those days when I am on my mat in the morning and experience a self-sabotaging storm in my mind, it takes me AT LEAST from 10 to 20 minutes of moving and breathing meditation, to actually feel good, energised and with an uplifted spirit.
What do I think during those 10-20 minutes?
- I only want to sleep, crawl in balasana/savasana/take a nap
- Why am I doing this?
- I am already tired
- God, this is boring (eye rolling) – another Sun Salutation again?
After a lot of years of practicing, I know these thoughts very well. These thoughts (and their source) kept me very small in my business and love life, for a lot of years.
But now I smile, welcome them and let them pass – like clouds, water or a summer breeze. I keep breathing, moving and like magic at a certain point – pufff -they disappear and:
I feel good, uplifted, whole, beautiful, grounded and alive.
Stay with me for the next couple of minutes, where I share with you other 5 ways to flip resistances on your mat, and set up your wellbeing as a priority.
5 ways to flip resistances at 180°
#1 Create a Yoga/Wellbeing routine, possibly always at the same hour. Give yourself time until this routine becomes an habit, like brushing your teethes or washing your face in the morning.
Please remember that resistances don’t really disappear, they simply show up in a different way, in a more elegant and refined way I would say. But once you know that, you can recognize them – feel the fear, anxiety and other uncomfortable feelings – and do it anyway. Show up for yourself, your wellbeing and health.
#2 Write down how you feel after a good and juicy Yoga class.
Use this as a reminder of the transformative power of Yoga. Words are powerful and sometimes they are enough to stimulate and evoke feelings, physical sensations and shift of energy.
#3 Keep it small, keep it consistent.
Remember that one of my fav strategies to sabotage myself is to set up unrealistic goals, so that I can complain and play the beloved victim role? Well, this is what happens when I plan in my head a 90’ Yoga practice when I know that is not realistic and suitable with my working schedule.
I learned to keep it small but doable – because it’s way healthier for me to actually do something for my wellbeing for 10 minutes, instead of complaining that I didn’t finish my 90’ programmed practice.
#4 Find a Yoga bestie.
Who said that we have to do everything alone? Especially when it comes to growth and doing something good for our wellbeing. Ask a friend to meet once a week and practice Yoga together. Keep each other accountable.
Sometimes it’s easier to show up when we are expected. Practice at home, go to your fav studio, practice with us here in Corpo Giardino – Yoga Practices!
#5 Smile and laugh, don’t take yourself too seriously.
Recognize when you are heading towards a self-sabotage adventure, shake it out – be compassionate with yourself. As a great teacher once told me: “Don’t believe everything you think”. Yes, please don’t – we are more capable of what we think daily.
To sum up
Actually, when resistances show up, it’s a good sign. It’s a sign that you are ready and willing to change something that is not working anymore in your life.
It’s a sign that you are really moving your feet away from your comfort zone, and taking the risk of uplift what you think, say and do.
Your next step: choose one of the 5 ways I shared with you to flip your resistances on your mat, at least for one week. If you see that you found a new way to move around resistances, share it with us in the comment section below or Facebook tagging us in @corpogiardino.
Last but not least, how do resistances show up in your life?
What is holding you back from getting on the mat daily?
Let me know 😊 so that I can fully support you in flipping this around,